Gogofo - LRT letter - planning a new beginning

[gogofo]

That's why we want you to put your spew jacket on. You need to be calm and strong right now. In person. In front of her. You need to be prepared with statements like:

-I understand you're upset, but I will not discuss this with you if you won't talk to me respectfully.

-This isn't something I want, however I will take steps to protect my relationship with the children.

-I'm not willing to discuss the details of the divorce with you. My lawyer is handling that.

Fasten your seatbelt, it's gonna be a bumpy ride.

Thanks Drew, this is exactly what I need. I have no idea what I am walking into and I do really appreciate everyone for helping out. I need to be prepared and reading and re-reading statements like this help me when the time comes to use them.

Just on the dark thing, gogofo, in an ideal world, you would continue to be cordial with your wife and create those positive interactions before going your separate ways. The reason everyone here is advising that you go dark is so you can learn to detach and focus on yourself without your wife in the picture.

I still do plan on being cordial. I am still so attached I would take a miracle for me to be hateful or vindictive towards her. My plan is to have cordial relations when the kids are around. When the kids are asleep I will go my separate way.