1: You are the only one you can control. All this talk about HER issues, while just beginning to work on yours, sort of smacks of you wanting to fix HER and NOT YOU - and then of course you wanting to get her back, which is about control.
2: By YOU getting help, including the meds, she can see the example YOU set.
If she notices any changes in your life or attitude & comments, you can say you were depressed BUT you "got some help and it's really paying off". IF she has complimented you in some way for it, you then thank her and don't stare at her hoping she keeps talking. Just let her see the happiness and inner peace growing in you, and let nature take its course b/c of course she'll want in on that!
IF depression is an issue in her life that she is capable of addressing, it'd be far more likely to happen, by her seeing changes in your behavior and happiness level - than anything you might "suggest" to her.
Especially if you are so depressed yourself that your fears and inertia keep you stuck. What good would it do then, to have you tell her how she can fix herself while she sees you wallowing?
Wouldn't she just roll her eyes at you telling her what to do for HER depression while surrendering to your own?
We learn from what others DO, not what they say. Same goes for what others learn from us....or to put it another way, "actions speak louder than words".
Make sense?
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