Gogofo - LRT letter - planning a new beginning

[gogofo]

I have read the Boundaries thread that Wonka started. I downloaded boundaries in marriage two days ago but have not read it. I will put it on my list, but right now I want to take a couple day break on any self help books.

I will read up on boundaries, I know I need them. When I first read Wonka's cheat sheet on it I realized I needed a boundary to separate physically from my W in the house. I was lying to myself that our interactions were going to rebuild our R. I was getting hurt after spending the evenings on the couch relaxing together. I built false hope and expectations.

I do want to sell the family home. It is 40 years old and needs a lot of upgrades that I am not prepared to do. The house would work, but I desire to have a new one.

When we were previously separated I thought about it and wanted to move. The house needs a new kitchen and windows and upgraded electrical system. I started to get quotes and about crapped myself. I would rather have a house without landscaping and an unfinished basement than upgrade the house I was in. The house I have an offer in on has a much better floor plan.