So...

Task 1: get over my expectations of his parenting. Own myself and let him be.

Task 2: decide how much participation *I* need from him to parent effectively and without driving myself into the ground. Decide how to compensate if he is not going to be a resource in my well-being as far as parenting relief goes.

Task 3: arrange things legally to support Tasks 1 & 2. To the extent necessary and possible, get STBX to agree to these things.

Task 4: execute. If STBX starts stepping up, be appreciative.

Have I got it?

Last edited by Maybell; 02/12/15 07:49 PM.

Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.