Thank you Train! I hadn't actually replied... Had a really busy day and forgot about the text. (Really was GAL, ha!) I saw your reply in time and I basically wrote that. Thanks!

Yeah I see what you mean. I should have left it after the first text. And I was definitely not trying to start R talk (I don't want it either) but I can see how it might be construed that way. But I also see how it could detract from upbeat chats.
I think the problem was I thought about it and it was too much like trying to show him my changes. So yes, stick with actions.

The first text was genuine so that's probably why it came across better. I just laughed when I saw the sandwich shop flyer and knew H would also find it amusing.

squiggy - I haven't brought up my changes in convo at all till now so I don't know how he'd react. I've just been sticking with lighthearted chats (I'll usually tell funny stories from my day), asking about his day, talking about his work, or telling about my day.

Me 28 / H 28
M 1 / T 2.5
BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more"
Still living together, separate rooms.