Me and toots are both in the Midlands, you need to head up t'north. Said with marvellous fake northern accent.
Its a difficult balance for you because on the one hand I feel like you need to be a safe harbour (back to nautical metaphor) and on the other you need to sort this stuff. I don't think apologetic is the right tone but then neither is confrontational
Hmmmmm......thinking......
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress