Thanks Toots. That is what I needed to hear. I've been struggling so much with feeling she is so absolute that nothing could ever change. I really need to move on with me and learn to give up W. Maybe it will get easier after V Day as this week has been bad for me emotionally. I have a hard time hearing about how she wants me to find someone and we can all be friends...this thought process is hurtful and beyond rational.

I see my IC again this afternoon and that usually gets me back on track for a bit. I'm not doing well enough on GAL so need to hit that hard next week when I don't have the little ones. I am not sure how long I wait before I move forward with D. I don't want it and feel she thinks we already are so can stay this way forever.


M: 44 W: 45
Married 26
Together 28
D: 22, S: 18, S: 9, D: 7
S: 12/2013, seperate houses
OM revealed first 10/2013, stopped seeing him
OM revealed 1/2015, been going on for quite some time