The Owl and the Pussycat

[Lyrael]

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The Owl and the Pussy-cat went to sea
In a beautiful pea green boat,
They took some honey, and plenty of money,
Wrapped up in a five pound note.
The Owl looked up to the stars above,
And sang to a small guitar,
'O lovely Pussy! O Pussy my love,
What a beautiful Pussy you are,
You are,
You are!
What a beautiful Pussy you are!'

Pussy said to the Owl, 'You elegant fowl!
How charmingly sweet you sing!
O let us be married! too long we have tarried:
But what shall we do for a ring?'
They sailed away, for a year and a day,
To the land where the Bong-tree grows
And there in a wood a Piggy-wig stood
With a ring at the end of his nose,
His nose,
His nose,
With a ring at the end of his nose.

'Dear pig, are you willing to sell for one shilling
Your ring?' Said the Piggy, 'I will.'
So they took it away, and were married next day
By the Turkey who lives on the hill.
They dined on mince, and slices of quince,
Which they ate with a runcible spoon;
And hand in hand, on the edge of the sand,
They danced by the light of the moon,
The moon,
The moon,
They danced by the light of the moon.

Hi, I'm Myrrh. Much to my surprise, my thread was locked when I visited it today! I knew it was coming...but I was still surprised. My old thread is Clear Goals and a Vision for the Future , if you want to catch up on my sitch. My H has been home for a couple of weeks, and I am struggling with maintaining my DBing efforts while adjusting to our new sitch.

The new thread title represents my H and I, he being a night owl, and well, I couldn't be more different if I WAS a pussycat!

Now, to direct all my friends to my new home...
Hugs to all,
Myrrh

[Meredith]

Welcome to your new home, Ms. Pussycat!

What do you think, Bets? Is she an cat like A's, or is she of the domesticated variety?

Good for you on the thread, Myrrh! Glad to see you're back on the horse. Which, in seal language, means: Clap, clap, arf, arf!

[Underdog]

Let's see.... well, Myrrh is both a pussycat AND part A's cat too! She isn't afraid to bite, but does well when her human treats her with affection.

So here goes the next part of your journey, Myrrh. I'm also glad to see you sitting on the wagon with the rest of us.

Hugs,

Bets

[Lyrael]

Let's see.... well, Myrrh is both a pussycat AND part A's cat too! She isn't afraid to bite, but does well when her human treats her with affection.

I really like a good scratch behind the ears, and the occasional bowl of cream.

It IS good to be back on the wagon - although my bruises from leaping off of it are still healing. Cats like fish, too - I guess I'll have to switch to Whiskas, tho. *Sigh* No guppies for me!

Goals for today:
1) S is sick with an ear infection, sinus infection, and pinkeye (three cheers for daycare!), so getting his medicine in him and giving him cuddles is high priority.
2) Gettin my Flylady goals done.
3) Not clawing the H today - he is sick, too - and stressed since he has the munchkin with him.

This is the Pussycat, signing off for now!

[Underdog]

Hope everyone gets well with a little Myrrh-inspired TLC...

[MovinOn]

Myrrh,

Don't you love daycare germs??? I remember them!
You sound great!!!

Clap Clap! Arf! Arf!

[comebackhome]

Welcome to your new home. Sorry to hear about the sickies at your house. Pink eye is always crappy. We all know they GET it at daycare, but then daycare won't let them come back with it

No pressure here Myrrh, but you do realize that you are the leader in our pack since your H is back in...That means you have to stay the course so we have a guide

Have a great day Flygirl.

[Lyrael]

And here I thought you were going to sing "Leader of the Pack" for me, CBH!
(See, you sing once and get heckled forever - that's just how it is )
Well, I am home with the shortman (munchkin, shortman, the little guy - we like 'em all!). We snuggled for a while, and then he started talking about ni-night (you know they're sick when they ASK for a nap), so I turned on his cool-mist humidifier, gave him some juice, and tucked him in. Poor little guy. Meredith talked about the conflict of being a working mom, and I am SO feeling it right now! It is hard to make sure you cover both bases - my boss started making noises about having a "backup" which she doesn't really need, but I think I talked her out of that.

All I could think about was S at work today - I hate knowing he is hurting and sick and not being able to hold him, even if he is with his very loving daddy.

On the bright side, all this little person stress is giving me an excellent opportunity to validate the heck out of my H. I got to tell him what an excellent and exceptional daddy he is (I DO know fathers that would outright refuse to take care of a sick child while their W was working, much less take them to the doctor alone!), and I told him on the way out the door not to worry about being late, because I understood he had a lot of work to do and had had a rough day. Now I have to back up that positive statement with actions and give him his "me" time tonight.

I talked to betsey today about my H struggling with a lot of his own feelings. He needs time to sort through his own issues, and she reminded me that he is dealing with coming home the best way he can. He doesn't have the myriad of tools and strategies, and the solid support I have behind me, not to mention a degree of self-awareness that helps me to recognise when my behavior is throwing us off track. It must be hard to not necessarily be able to separate ineffective behavior from your core self - i.e. I am behaving in ways that upset other people, therefore I must be bad. He is just sort of muddling through all this, and his intentions are wonderful - he came home to his family, and he loves us very much!

I love my little owl!

[Lyrael]

Well, just wanted to update at the critical point of the evening. When I signed off with Betsey this afternoon, she said "Have a good DBing night" - when I think about every night that way - as a chance to DB, I think my attitude is better.
I signed off of EQ a little early, because my throat and chest are hurting and I am soooo tired. So I will probably be going to bed. H told me to call him in a few, and I got a little weird and asked if he was going to tell me he wasn't sleeping here, but I quickly moved on and said I woul dcall him - this is a really scary prospect, as these kinds of later night calls are where the conflicts start, sooo - cross your fingers and wish me luck! Here goes nothing....

[Lyrael]

Okay - I am smugly eating cream out of my "runcible spoon." (See the poem above if confused ) The call went mah-velously. H was very sweet when he answered - I told him I was feeling sick and he told me I should get some sleep. He let me know his partner (BUSINESS, that is) had friends over (he hates it when the shop is loud and crowded late at night), and I said "Oh, I bet you're loving that" (sympathetic sarcasm, there) and he said "oh, yeah." Then he went downstairs to use the bathroom (so he could talk to me out of everybody's earshot) and said "I am kind of waiting for them to leave so I can unwind." I said " Yeah, I imagine you must need some real relaxation time after the long rough day you had. Will you poke me when you get home so I can have a hug?"

He kind of chuckled and said "yeah" and I said g'night, babe. And he said "sleep well, sweetie."

I did good, right? Look at me, shamelessly shmoozing for validation! Anyway - this is a really rough point in every evening for me, but I am so tired and sick tonight all I can think about is crawling into bed and dozing off (after I read some DR - I think I've read it maybe 6 times now). I think that's good, though!
Love all you guys,
Myrrh