I'm fairly certain at this point 99%, though I am not 100% there is no affair, there may have been one either PA or EA at one point this summer(and we've had plenty of sex in that time hell we did it two days before she dropped the bomb), but I cannot find a single shred of evidence, and I looked fairly aggressively, phone records, emails, cell phone, etc.
Let me tell you, that may have been the most difficult thing I've done in terms of my own sexual urges ever. It took everything for me not to toss her on the bed right there and then. At the same time I feel quite empowered by my action.
Me 41 Wife 38 T20 M13 S8 D3 Bomb 1/26/15 A confirmed 2/19/15