Toots I would send a package to ss but have it delivered to H's house.... candy/card/small gift showing him you love him. This also shows H you value your relationship with ss with or without H in the picture and it also 1.) Reminds H you're an awesome person 2.) Makes ss feel special and loved 3.) Opens the door for H to contact you to say "thanks for thinking of ss" without the direct pursuit of traditional Valentine's day towards H.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction