I don't think there's a thing wrong with an occasional, a-little-more-than-neighborly-friendly text to H. In fact, I liked how you texted him about the sandwich shop ... IF you had stopped it after his response to that. See what I mean? That's a quick and easy way to make your H think about you in a positive way. It's no different than you being light and breezy in front of H when he's home; pay him a compliment - in PASSING - and walk away with a smile on your face and a pep in your step, for instance. Don't stick around for a conversation or a reply.
As for today's text? My sitch was, as you know, far different than yours. But my rule of thumb was that I *always* responded to specific questions H sent; I just did it in my own time and usually not immediately after he texted me. Because, after all, I was a busy gal, GAL and enjoying my freedom.
I imagine you've already responded to H. But the next time he asks a question like that, I would reply with a chipper - but not lengthy or specific - "Yes! It's going great! Hope you're having a ball - can't wait to see your video!" Or something similar. And leave it at that.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
