W still having PA with OP

[4mendmj]

Thanks Toots. I have been re-writing my boundaries statement I want to tell W and will include it below for opinions but...I seriously request more examples of consequences I can create without actually filing. I have now read 85% of DR and I get every sitch is different but I don't get how to turn up the heat. Part of my problem as the pleaser as starsky wonderfully puts it is I am not a vindictive person by nature. I don't know how to increase the consequences without actually filing. ideas?

When you continue to lie to me, I feel taken advantage of. We agreed to trade honesty for a temporary open marriage so you had time to think and you have not held up your end of the bargain. When you hardly speak to me yet come and go as you please, I feel like your maid and babysitter as if this is a hotel, not a home. I want to spend my life with someone who values me for whom I am and treats me with respect. If you continue to stay with XXXXXX, I will consider all of my options, including leaving this relationship.