Hi there 4M. If you want to file, do it because you are really and truly ready to move on. Don't do it in the hope that things will become more real to your W and there will be consequences.
It is true that your M (and mine BTW) is only on paper just now. But, if you've been reading these boards for a while, you know the trajectory that most A's take. There may well come a point that your W wants back in. But, as you'll also know from reading these boards, that may not be any time soon.
Are there ways of moving forward with your life without filing for D? Absolutely. Will your W feel consequences without you filing for D? Yes. I guess I'm just saying, wait until you are truly ready to leave your M behind and move on before you file for D.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
