Thanks GG and Jim. Yes, maybe best not to send anything. It is H's birthday later this month - so it may be best to ignore Valentines, but send a birthday card or text....more neutral and less risk of being seen as pursuit.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus