Seperated and she is with someone - I'm desperate

[vdubber]

Hi Wet...yes you are absolutely right I am having a tough time on that front.

So I realize i am my own worst enemy and need some major 2x4's swung my way.

Last night W texted to say she was running late. I said no problem, if it's too late don't worry about stopping by as S9 will be fine. Then after I get home with D7 as I thought it was safe since it was 8pm W shows up. She comes in for a few minutes we don't really talk. She says hi to kids checks on S9 and then leaves.

This morning like an idiot I text to her D7 made us VDAY card and she will give it to her tomorrow evening as W asked to have kids for 3 hrs tomorrow night for a friend's bday party. I then stupidly say I am sad we will not be spending VDAY together and I hope someday she can see me for who I am now....I know this is against everything I'm trying to do right now.
She tells move on as waiting is not an option. I tell her I understand that she has trouble seeing me without feeling whatever resentment she has from the past. But that I feel if she didn't know me and her BFF had introduced us that I feel she would be both physically and emotionally attracted to me and she would appreciate my kind heart.

She tells me she wants to be friends and see me often. She wants me to come even hang out at bar with her even if she has bf and bring my friends and gf if i have one at the time. I tell her I understand that may be how she feels but it certainly is not how I feel. That if I didn't love her or care for her maybe that would have been possible but that just isn't the case. She says she did love me and she does care and this is her way of moving on but does want to be friends. I end by saying I am just so confused and there is so much I don't understand.

How does one go from loving someone for a quarter century to let's hang out with our new bf and gf?

This is apparently where her morals and values are now and I'm guessing is in line with the lives all her new friends have been leading for years.

Where to go from here? I brought this upon myself by texting her and ruining my NC progress. It seems contact or NC she doesn't care and I'm just a old rotated out bf in her mind.

Is there any hope for my situation....really?