Gogofo - LRT letter - planning a new beginning

[gogofo]

My DB coach did say to try to drag out the process. I have until Friday to file a response to the complaint. This response will prolong the process. Going into default would have removed most all road blocks in the process.

I waited until this time because we had no communication about the D until she asked me my income number. I was ignoring the D and was not protecting myself. I had hoped that my actions were changing her mind, how foolish.

She had me scared when she wanted to kick me out for not telling her that I was served papers. Another spineless interaction on my part because I apologized for not telling her. I have taken validating to the next level of cowering down to her. Instead of saying "I see how you feel, even if I don't agree" I go to "I am sorry, I should not have made you mad." PATHETIC!

I didn't think about how giving her my net income would keep the process going. I see your point now. I was nervous about her seeing me not giving it to her as manipulating her; I have tons of work to do with being codependent and worried that someone is upset with me.

My DB coach also said to continue to be pleasant, not to go dark. I have had overwhelming responses here to go dark. Sandi took me to task, and I agree with what she said. I am codependent on her and being pleasant leads me to being spineless.

Some of my coach's advice seems to go against advice from some of the vets.

I could be confused on this too.