W still having PA with OP

[4mendmj]

Thanks Ontheup for the strong and encouraging words. I am struggling with the fact that there will be no change in the marriage until W and OW are split up if they do and that will likely not happen unless there are Consequences. There are currently less than 10 words spoken a day in many cases in recent weeks by W to me and it feels like we have literally slid to the point of separation although we all live in the same home at this time. W did choose to go (I assume as she made D arrangements with me to go) to her IC yesterday evening. One of my rules I gave myself was if she quit going to IC I would be done but I learned that W does not even speak of the OW during her individual sessions as if she is protecting that side of her life from transparency. How can you not talk about something when it is 90% of what you do in your life? Seems crazy to me, literally crazy.

Last night I got to go see a dear friend who is supportive of my sitch and respects the effort I have put in during the last 5 months since I found out but reading about the boundaries just makes me realize I no longer want to live in an open relationship where zero progress is being made in the home.

I do not know whether to file to make this more real for W (Consequences), understanding that it could be the end of our marriage but as I view the last year of my life, I am not married other than a piece of paper right now anyway so I have nothing to lose. Whether I get my marriage back or am freed of this train wreck, I would at least be moving forward with my life instead of being a doormat.