Oh, Susana! (3)

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I want to reinforce what others mentioned about showing through actions. I am a word person as well. However, you need to remember that your H is not truly listening to you right now. He's admitted that he's done things wrong and is focusing on himself right now. You've done a good job so far doing the same, as your actions show in your GAL efforts, IC, and reflecting on what you can change. The thing you really need to ask yourself is whether or not the words you are using towards him are pursuit.

I truly understand how proud you are of the changes you've made. I want nothing more than my WAW to see that these are genuine, lifelong changes. I want to sit with her an explain all the things I've come to realize and began working on. I want to explain that I realize I'm a WIP, but it is a great WIP and can bring so much happiness to our future. Guess what happened when I did even a little bit of that. She pushed back and acted as though it was pursuit. Has your H done the same thing over time when you try to tell him? Ask yourself, as it mentions in DR, whether it draws them closer or pushes them farther away.

I am learning to be a fan of "actions speak louder than words." If you are truly internalizing these changes for yourself, which I do not doubt you are, then it will be SEEN through the way you carry yourself in even the littlest ways. My WAW has noticed, without a doubt, the changes in my R with S5; I didn't tell her about them. The way he and I interact with each other in front of her does not need words at all. Think on that.