Yes, they meet 3-4 times per year, but I don't see her leaving the M right away to be with the OM permanently because it would involve a move to a different continent. W is also very invested in her career. She'd need to get an equivalent job in a foreign country before she'd leave, IMHO.
I know you don't, Kieran, and we're all trying to GET you to see it. You are an academic -- do some basic research on "PEAs love lust brain addiction." Affairs are HIGHLY addictive, and the chemical changes in the brain of a wayward even show up on a CAT scan. Do you remember the story of an otherwise sane, intelligent, adult female astronaut who drove across the country wearing an adult diaper, just so she wouldn't have to stop for bathroom breaks while she drove to Florida to confront her affair partner's wife to avenge her man???
Just on these very forums, I have seen previously rational, successful, devoted people wipe out their family's bank accounts; contract STDs and bring them home to their betrayed spouse, infecting them; abandon their own children; one woman had sex in the family car with her OM, while her one year old child sat sleeping in her car seat, two feet away from them; others have jeopardized (and lost) lucrative careers, engaging in all kinds of stupid and risky behavior.
