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Hi Gg (firstly shouldnt you be asleep isnt it after 11 )

Yes I've always said to w you dont have to agree to everything no one can do it all and neither should you need to, she just seemed to hate saying no to anyone (bar me).

W always said she didnt feel she needed to pretend or placate me which was nice to know but mostly just meant I got pushed to the bottom of the pile unfortunately.

You can probably tell from my posts Im not a fan of misogyny, my view was always share responsibilities unfortunately with our issues w felt i pushed everything s related to her and she was probably right but overlooked the root cause of it all - our communications had stopped.

I must admit Im torn at the moment, if I do too much, get too involved then im (a) friend zoning myself which I had said I wouldnt do and was a boundry and (b) Im taking impacts of her decisions away but I know shes having issues with that balance right now and I dont want her to think I simply dont give a d@mn or just making everything ok for myself as thats the furthest from the truth its possible to get.

Unfortunately she simply wont sit down and talk about it all, in august she said we'll talk finances, apart from blowing up at me when I got rid of what I thought were dead direct debits she's not tackled any of it with me. She said she'd give me payments for her tv in dec,jan and feb...erm, nothing. I refactored most of the debt so I can handle it (w only took her credit card bills).

Ultimately I want to help and will of course do so for anything relating to s but its not an easy balance and while Im practicing detatchment for my own sake, I worry she is storing up trouble for herself right now and what that means in relation to s.

Confusing times