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Hi v

In my case mum was always I'll and indeed died at 45 so she was loving overcompensated and spoiled me when she was there, my dads job took him away for months at a time (non military) which left me with our live in grandparents.

My nan was ok if not the most approving sort but my grandfather was old,old school and controlling and manipulating in the extreme.

I had no real choice but to grow up early, by 9 I was sharing in chores (big stuff, washing,ironing,shopping solo) and school and trying to keep them both ok if my mum was in hospital.

Honestly I dont know if he was an alcoholic but if not he was close, home brew 3 litre or the 70s equiv of it of beer every night and what we would now call abusive to nan. Yet he was always the victim of life he would say. He also manipulated my mother and distanced my dad.

I think my dad always resented them being there (mums parents)
As well.

Didn't realise a lot of the issues I had and why I had problems relating to s until I had counciling last year and realised hes going through a childhood I missed out on so I have issues relating, that plus internalised frustration at w distancing me put me in a bad place. I'm not saying I'm deliriously happy now of course but I think this is better than those dark days.

Thanks for asking v