Devastated Husband; Need Advice...Part 2

[Calibri]

Death by burpees every time you get the urge to talk to her.

But seriously.

I understand. I really do. The interactions are like a drug. You're also five months post BD, four months after she left. From my personal experience, and what I've seen around, this is where it starts to get even tougher. Because damn it, we don't want to be here and why the hell is it not going outer way?

Because, we can't control it.

My feeling? You're going to get hardcore withdrawals if you do it cold turkey. And I don't know if you'll be able to stick with it AND I get the sense that your W. Won't deal well with it.

But you know what, she walked - so I'm less inclined to cater to her situation.

Forgive me, that's the bitch in me coming out. I'm putting her back inside me now.

My other thought is that you ramp it down slowly so as not to cause her alarm and make her feel abandoned, and give yourself some space. Whatever goal you are comfortable with. And for the love of god stop reading her blog.

I'm not an advocate of lying but could you tell a small lie and say you have some sort of opsec thingy and will be out of communication for 48 hours?

You have to take a break or this will blow up in your face and it will get ugly. very very ugly. Trust me.