One other question: if one of my W's stereotypical complaints about me was that I wasn't demonstrative enough of my affection for her (e.g. arranging dates and buying her flowers/cards) how can I 180 that behaviour if I'm not supposed to do that stuff for her now?
It is pursuit especially if she is in an active affair.
Like an alcoholic saying I quit vodka and changed to beer. A change but not the right one.
Edit - Starsky if you get a chance look at my thread in MLC
