Oh, Susana! (3)

[Calibri]

Know all about not leaving it alone. I majored in that in college.

So, it's not horrible, but it wasn't the best either. It was a great convo until you (IMO) turned it back onto you. One might interpret your text as a thinly veiled opener for a R talk. I saw that with all due respect cause I've done it in the past.

So H is having a nice time. Snow, vacay and then BAM! Reminder of wife and relationship problems.

I tried something similar, cause I couldn't leave it alone. I'm still mortified about the convo to this day. (I tried being vulnerable. I ended up looking like an insecure ass.)

here's the thing (and forgive me, I'm tired so I may not be completely UTD on your sitch). h knows you're going to IC. H knows (seemingly) that you are working on yourself. H doesn't need to be reminded while he's on vacation. You want H to notice your positivity. Not be told about it. Via text. On vacation.

You're fairly new re: BD and I know things must be whirling around in your head. And you remind me of me, except more positive. :-) allow yourself time to breathe. Allow your H time to breathe. These things need to be given time and space to work out.

Take a look at wonka's validation sheet. It might be helpful to have available.