^^^ I'm wondering Mozza's question, too Is this about you feeling like H should be a more involved parent and be spending more time with his kids? Or is this about what you want/need, meaning you need some time alone to recharge/get things done/go out with friends/etc.? If it's the first one, like people have mentioned, that's his relationship to have or not have with them, so no, I don't know that it's your place to say anything about that aspect of it. If it's the second one and it really truly is about you, then I think you have every right to say something (along the lines of the outline Underdog gave!)
I honestly thought my parents would have been D'ed by now (maybe they will when my 17yo sister moves out for college next year, who knows...) and when I was younger and thought about that, living with my dad part of the time never ever crossed my mind. I completely visualized that as living with my mom and maybe seeing my dad at holidays or during the day on a weekend but never pictured myself staying overnight where he lived. He was just not that involved. He tried sometimes but he was pretty clueless (and still is), not to mention he is a member of SAA and would try and talk to us about it even when we said it made us uncomfortable. Sometimes there's just a default parent and the other one doesn't have an impact.. and kids can turn out just fine (well, I like to think I turned out fine )
*sorry, this is now after your post so may or may not make sense anymore!
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Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
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