OD, I appreciate there is more to tell re the most recent conversation with W...but so far, I'm with Toots. It's interesting, I think, that she would say "she still wants [you] to be part of the 'family' as a father to the boys" right after you tell her that you might not contribute so much $ to the joint account. Had she said anything like that previously?
In terms of job - please, please, please - base your decision on what you want to do in your life regardless of W. Based on what you write above it sounds like it might not be for you even the interview did go well.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
The shoes one, I think she would have let me buy them with S12 but she explained that she wanted to come to look for clothes for S15.
Really think about how you said all that. Really think about where you, the other adult parent to these boys, fits in that sentence.
And just to push you further... My boys are 7 and 9 and they are perfectly capable of choosing their own clothes. All they need is the person with the wallet to get them legally out of the store. So I repeat. Why did she have to be there and why did you use the word "let" in that sentence?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
You are a parent to these boys and part of their family. W has no say it, it is a fact. Whether your wallet and salary are open is irrelevant, you are their dad and a good one too, from your interactions and description we can see the love and care.
At the age of your two boys they have a say in their R with you too. None of you need W to let you do anything, buy shoes, clothes, go bowling or eat pizza. W is the wayward one here and her interactions with the family are out of kilter.
OD have a career you like.
You are being guided well by your fellow DBers.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 02/10/1502:50 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Glad to hear you found the IC appt useful, Old Dog. As for the weekend - do what works for you. Only you can judge what that is. Sure we chime in on your sitch but you're the one at the drivers wheel with full view of the road ahead.
In addition to V's amazing posts above, did you see the new thread on boundaries by Wonka? I would send a link but I'm on my phone so it's tough to bring up.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
