Maybell XXIX

[Maybell]

I hear you all. So please understand I mean this question very seriously:

Is it my place to say these things to him? Or do I wait to say it through the lawyer?

I don't feel like I was a truly controlling person in our marriage. Micro-managed my areas of responsibility, definitely. But I basically went along with anything he wanted.

Do I get to tell him to step up and be a dad? Do I get to tell him his priorities are whack?

I don't feel like I do. Partly because he pushes back (like this morning when I said I had a hard time believing he couldn't take ONE evening for his kids and he threw back the "this is temporary" business).

I have a hard time imagining myself saying that to him and him actually changing to go along with my priorities.