So W texted me a couple times today to check on S9 and I was brief but polite with my responses. She asked if she could stop by after work and a dr. appt to check on him. I said that would be fine, I would go get my daughter at that time from daycare so she could have a few minutes alone with him. She offered to stop and get D7 on the way over and I told her not to worry, I had it covered.
Is this me seen as trying to avoid her, thus somehow control/manipulate as she always seems to accuse me of no matter my course of action? The reality is after our argument Sunday I really have no desire to see her in person for some time, I am not ready for the anxiety and stress it causes me.
I don't want to seem childish or controlling by not being here when she comes to see S9 but I really am not ready to see her at this time. I didn't want to tell her she cannot see him as I understand her concern to make sure he's OK, but part of me wonders if I should have said no he's fine and I'll let you know if he doesn't seem to improve.
Idk...I didn't want to give her a reason to think I was using the kids to manipulate so I thought the best course of action was to inform her of him not feeling well, allow her to stop and see him, and step out for a bit so she can do so and we can avoid the tension.
Am I way off base here?...i can't seem to thing straight lately.
Oh and btw, S18 will be here with S9 while I'm gone so didn't want it to seem as if I was leaving him by himself.
Last edited by vdubber; 02/12/1512:19 AM.
M: 44 W: 45 Married 26 Together 28 D: 22, S: 18, S: 9, D: 7 S: 12/2013, seperate houses OM revealed first 10/2013, stopped seeing him OM revealed 1/2015, been going on for quite some time
