Maybe it would be better to tell your wife that you interpreted her complaint as having sole custody of the kids which conflicts with the joint custody that was discussed. Hear what she has to say in response, say nothing yourself and leave it at that. No 'what you're doing' or when, how, why.
Would that work for you?
That could be another approach. I just feel I need to say something and figure out what is going on with the D. Don't want to be left in the dark.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15