I will say that that there were times where I put my work first at times when I absolutely should have prioritised my family and personally I found the conflict between the two really stressful (too much of my self worth wrapped up in my career).
It took BD to make me really understand that I'd been making the wrong decisions (through fear). Sometimes it takes that metaphorical bucket of water to see it though.
You need to sort this for you and your kids, and your H is going to have decide what that means for his future relationship with his kids.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
