I am not sure that initiating friendly exchanges helps to get that point across.
I totally agree. But it was ONE. What I'm trying to encourage here is for Rys to begin to trust some of his own DBing instincts, and not get so hung up on the tactical stuff that he loses his overall "mojo." Sort of a "Hey, wife -- it's a pic of the cat, it's not all about you, get over yourself, babe" sorta thing.
Make sense? But absolutely agree with the "I won't be friends with you as long as you are with another man" and "I won't just sit here and wait forever for you to decide," ab-so-damned-lutely.