W, I would like to share with you my thoughts and I ask that you just listen to what I have to say without interrupting and I'll let you know when I'm finished. First of all, I'd like to say that I know I'm a good man who loves and is dedicated to his beautiful wife. I would like nothing more than to have a strong, deeply loving and happy marriage with you and that I am totally willing to commit to a reconciliation process that will involve reconnecting with each other and rebuilding trust. We've both had our shares of stressors which are at times untenable. So I would like to suggest that we take that trip to Grenada to get away from the external stressors and spend a week with each other, enjoying the sun and the sand between our toes, having some laughs and good times. Then when we return we will be in a better place to re-evaluate our situation.
Haven't you tried this once already? I think it was a different time and place, but it sounds very familiar. And those words you used? You've said it all before. Peter, she KNOWS how you feel. That's part of the problem.
You keep saying you don't want to leave any stone unturned. How long have you been saying that? It is an excuse to linger on.
If you want to continue as things are, that is your business. I hate to see you believe her lies and your own excuses for her, but that is up to you. And now her C is saying it make take years before she is able to come around. If ever? So are you ready to live in these conditions for the rest of your life, b/c frankly, I have seen no difference in how you describe her now than when you first posted. You "settled". You've catered to her and pursued her. You continue to reassure her of your love. You've treated her like a princess. She wipes her feet on you and disrespects you....and you keep putting up with it. Just how did you stand up to her the other night? By telling her you can't take it any more? Then you tuck your tail and go sleep on the couch. That is not what I see as standing up to her. Maybe you told your C more than you told us.
I think you are wasting precious years of your life. You deserve better. If you are as good a man as you say you are......then you deserve a good wife!!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
