claire7: If I can step in: My situation is very similar to that of bdub. Basically, I try to schedule stuff for when I'm available and, if I have the kids, well I just miss some stuff like work functions. I'm a dad, it comes with constraints and work does not always have priority. I've never requested a change (5 months now) but I've just agreed to two changes with WAW because she wants to attend a wedding this summer and because her father will be visiting from abroad at Easter while his business is closed, two important events that can't be moved.
In short, what I'm saying is that flexibility should be minimal. It's no longer about "accommodating" a spouse like it was in a M. We no longer share our lives and the kids need predictability.
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