All is fine with the current agreement, except custody.
If she agrees to redo an uncontested D, then all will be fine and we can both have joint custody and keep our financials separate.
If we cannot meet an uncontested D then we go to court. This is where we argue our sides and the threat to my financials happens because the judge will set what they think is equitable. (she gets some of my investments and I get some of her debt)
I am trying to keep us communicating and working together and keep this away from the judge making decisions in our lives.
We can switch L or go through hers, I don't care, I just want to protect my right to my kids and my financials.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15