Gogofo - LRT letter - planning a new beginning

[gogofo]

I understand your reasoning here Wonka, let me explain with more detail.

If I do not contest the D complaint, then it is accepted and we go our merry ways. This is financially beneficial to me. If I contest it and we decide to both L up and go to court, then I could stand to lose a large portion of my retirement and other investments and inherit a portion of her student debt. Could cost me around $70k or more.

She has stated she does not want my investments and does not want to give me her debt. I agree.

This I do not want. To me it seems like a boneheaded idea.

With an uncontested D complaint we both set the parameters of our D and the courts have no reason to change anything.

It is my opinion that if I tell her up front then we can still be amicable about this and she will not be caught off guard by my response from the L.

She told me in advance that I would be served papers. I feel that this is the best way to handle this right now.

Do not engage your W directly in those discussions.

Why should I not engage W directly?