Isn't a D complaint the same as filing for a D, right?
If yes, then I do not see the need to talk with W as she's already instructed her L to act on her behalf and her L put it in the complaint.
Remove yourself from the process and allow your L to compile a response and contest it from a custodial standpoint.
Do not engage your W directly in those discussions. There's a reason for the lawyers...to hash out the details. It is now the time to put on your business hat for this is a negotiation between the two of you via Ls.
