I hadn't really looked much at that site till today. Only to find out about the dynamics of an affair. But then going on there they seem to have a much tougher stance. I mean serious detective work going on, name and shame to everyone get D papers drawn up and really house becomes a war zone as no one is budging. They sort of shame the WAS. which i can see would work but would they not just resent you forever? smooth path back if possible and all that? Even Dr Harley says affairs die a natural death. the bit that interested me was the exposure. Trying to be rational now my stance may be " i am not prepared to lie any longer about your affair or mine for that matter if anyone asks." I don't mean im going to email the world about it as per MB but on same hand im not going to continue to lie and say it is a mutual separation. Not to shame her but because the truth eventually comes out and i don't want to be party to the lie. What do i have to gain by lying? Nothing? As far as me moving out for my own health which has been very poor of late considering im usually very fit which i put down to stress I think it may be my only option. What else is there. Stay in this house and continue to feel like Sh1t. I physically have the shakes all the time now. Then wife will move out and it just causes even more upset for D8. I don't even know what i want i change my mind a hundred times a day and i don't think i will till we're separated. Some distance between us. The risk is she continues her affair. But that will continue if i stay or if she moves out so what difference does it make. Dr Harley again advocates that last resort is man moving out so as to cause as little upset as possible to children but them some on there are literally flinging their wives out the door.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
