Her view or opinion on this dance is that she said "I do so good when we are apart. Then we get back together and I stop doing things for myself. I stop seeing my friends or going out to have fun." I suggested an in-house separation and she told me "it would never work because I cannot leave her alone." She is correct about this.
There it is. You have to be able to do well, apart and together. Space can be your friend, as long as you utilize your time wisely. Be consistent in your actions.
You know what you need to do. Nothing to it, but to do it.
Originally Posted By: gogofo
I have always been a person who get upset if someone is mad at me or dislikes me. I have even tried to apologize to a neighbor that was stealing plants from the first house we were going to buy. I felt I went overboard with my anger. I don't like this about myself and have tried hard to change it. I need to refocus on this.
This is interesting. That is the beauty of detachment. It applies to every aspect of your life. Some people will like you, and some people will dislike you. It is reality. Don't be a people pleaser, because you will be unhappy.
Treat people respect and integrity. If they like you, great. If they don't, it really doesn't matter. Some people are simply miserable.
Many times we place expectations on people by the way we would do things. When they don't meet these expectations, we come away disappointed. Just a matter of accepting that we are all different, and do things differently(similar to the 5LL).
That's right pal....developing detachment. Detachment
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
