I'll really try to elaborate. We always had liberal views, and felt that we could enjoy sex with others together. We would come home from a party and talk about it for days. It really added new levels to our sex life. We spoke about it for a couple of years before doing anything. Then we spoke on websites to people for perhaps another year before attending our first party. Really tbh I thought it was great and didn't see and issue, but even from the beginning I found myself at times uncomfortable when my wife was with an other man. I have my own issues of suppressing negative feelings though, so I boxed these thoughts away and promptly forgot them each time.
Our relationship ha s seemed super strong, but had probably become incestious, we did everything together Including working from home together the last 12 months. She went to therapy for low self esteem two years ago, and started to really change. Deep down I was terrified she wouldn't love me anymore and would leave me. I therefore became even more suffocating, I have thrown away most of my business and held her tighter trying to stop my self loosing her. In October our eldest D turned 13, plus we had two younger femal freinds round that weekend who were talking to guys on Tinder. Since then she spent all her time texting in her phone and ignoring me and the kids. I responded with anger, hurt etc. Our sex life bevan more adventurous at home if anything, she wanted to try anal (something we had done once before years ago) but I felt an emotional distance somewhere in the back of my head (visible now with hindsight).
Does that answer your questions or am I missing bits?
Was she doing all this time texting before? Texting can be addictive as well as new connections and hookups. Was she hanging tough with these younger females before too? At under 25 many of them are addicted to drama and cannot stay still. They will be trying out new guys, complaining about old ones, texting, facebooking, facetiming, etc.
