Thank you for taking the time to answer all of my questions in detail. You have done well with making a lot of changes. Obviously your W still has her walls up to you.
It is possible that the biggest thing you fear, might be the thing that swings the pendulum back to bringing you back together. She still has you in her life, to help her with everything. Just like you did yesterday. It will be different when you aren't around.
You really need to work on your detachment. I can see how she would feel pressure from you. It is overwhelming to her.
Here is an analogy for you....it is like nurturing the growth of a plant. You must provide the correct amount of water and food. Allow the process to run its course. If you provide too much water/food, you will either kill the plant or slow down its growth.
Same thing applies to your M/R. You are so focused on the end result(recon), that you are providing too much water/food. You need to trust the process. It starts with detaching. When you let go, your W will sense it. You will feel like an enormous weight has been lifted off of your shoulders.
Back to my questions about things you have changed. You have made numerous changes within your M/R. I am curious to know if you have made changes independent of your M/R?
25mlc, often post be the person only a fool would leave. To me, that means to be an amazing and attractive person. The goal should be to get there. Here is a list of attractive traits in no particular order:
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
