Wife Wants Out

[Leon01]

MrBond,

I hope you understand that this has truly been a wake-up call for me. There are some things that I know I need to work on.

And thanks for keeping me in check.

[Squiggy]

He's good at that. Listen to him though. MrBond knows what he is talking about.

[Leon01]

Thanks, Squigs.

So far I have found lots of great advice here.

[Leon01]

Got on the scale this morning. Ugh, I'm down 25 pounds since BD1. I guess the silver lining is that my stomach is flat.

[Leon01]

More ups and downs.

Found more evidence of a EA/PA yesterday. I've been noticing that the W hasn't been smelling like perfume as she leaves for work recently. Last night her work bag was open and I peeked in and saw that she has been taking her perfume, toothpaste, toothbrush, and mouthwash to work with her. And she has been arriving home later and later. There was also a book on co-parenting in there.

I did have a pretty good session with my IC last night. Told her about this blog and we talked in great details about EAs, PAs and workplace romances. She really opened my eyes.

[Starsky309]

So what's your plan at this point, Leon? How can we best help you?

[Leon01]

So what's your plan at this point, Leon? How can we best help you?

I want to keep my family together.

I don't really have a plan, but I have an appointment with a marriage coach set up for next week. I hope to get some guidance there as to how to move forward.

Starsky, your success story gives me hope. And I know I have a long way to go. I have to keep telling myself that it is a marathon, not a sprint.

[Mozza]

Leon01: If you want a plan, go back to DR and really put down in writing the exercises. It's structured to give you a plan.

[Leon01]

Mozza, I have the DB book, but not DR. I will add that to the list.

[Leon01]

A close friend recommended that I keep a log of all of the things she has done that seemed "cold" towards the kids. He claims it could be useful in a custody battle. My IC was against it.

Over the past couple of weeks she has
1) Forgot to pick them up from school.
2) Forgot to feed them.
3) Closed herself in her room and left them unsupervised for ~8 hours. I'm sure they didn't mind, but they were up until around midnight and they were not fed during this time. I was out with a friend (GALing) and when I arrived home they were watching TV and hungry.

Keep in mind that this isn't something I want to do. I want us to be a family again. But friends keep telling me that I should take these steps in order to protect my kids.