Last night after work I asked a co-worker to drop me at Edwards Gardens (oops, identifying info lol) and I spent 2 hours doing what I love best, taking photos. It just clears my mind so and fills my heart with joy. I'm always so amazed at God's creation and the lens has brought it all to life for me! Anyway, back to online dating. I realize now that I violated one of my rules which is never give second chances.If a woman stops communicating with you for any reason...let it go. Not once has going back ever brought about anything positive. If a woman stopped communicating with me or didn't reply to a coffee request I would message and thank them for sharing a bit with me and wish them the best. I thought it was an adult way to handle it. Each time they reply to that, for whatever reason, it has never turned out well. Maybe they feel guilty, don't know how to say no, or they think they should put me back on the list...I dunno. This time I messaged her, she replied and then I replied and she didn't. I should have just left it be but I had a hunch that my humour had maybe been misread. She then replied and we spend a few hours messaging and sharing later on. Then she started initiating with me. So lesson learned...no response, don't bother. My experience is that if they screw you over once and you go back they'll do it to you again...that's not bitterness talking that's what I've found. People are people and the Bible says we're all broken and we are! I know there are no hard and fast rules but I think this one might be worth keeping in mind in future encounters. I also noted that when I have a sixth sense I need to pay attention to it. There have been a number of times when something has said "this isn't right" and I've carried on...and it wasn't! This time a voice kept popping up in my head "she isn't who she says she is" but because it was just a feeling and I had nothing really concrete to base that on I didn't pay that much attention to it.I didn't ignore it but didn't give it much credence (Btw, when she told me the name of the company she worked for at the airport I did check it out and they do have the contract) ... Anyway, just thoughts I've had about my merry adventures in the land of looking for love. No matter what, I've still got my turtle!
