Card29 X - Let It Be

[Mozza]

Aouch, in my (our?) position, it's hard to have sympathy knowing that sis' friend left her ex for another man. I see patterns everywhere now... Are you engaging other women, if only chatting them up in random places? It was interesting the impact this woman had on you, so I'm wondering if just flirting and getting a response elsewhere could help your thinking about your sitch. My IC thinks that intensity of my reaction to the S is linked to my lack of confidence that I can find someone else as good, so he's pleased that I'm at least trying to get a response from girls I find interesting. It worked once and it did have an impact.

I had forgotten that you were not D'ed. It's interesting that there are no more talks about this, though it's good to avoid reading into it. My WAW brought up the D paperwork then easily accepted when I asked her to delay. I try not to read into it...

Thanks for reporting openly about porn. I wanted to tell you that it made me look at my own habits and what impact it had on my M and my life. I don't think it was a cause of the S, but it probably had a more negative impact than I had realized. It's something that I'm improving already and that I would like to improve in a future R. So you're helping others with your openness.

I'm also reading NMMNG so your progress is also interesting. It's good to see that so many of us are becoming better through this awful experience. Keep at it.