Doing the limbo thing (thread #8)

[shodan]

I have a question for the broader group, especially those who know something about piecing. I believe that my W and I are in piecing but it is "piecing light." In many ways, my W is communicating with four of the five LLs...lots of acts of service, buys me the occasional gift, we spend quality time together, and she uses words of affirmation. What is missing is physical touch. We do a lot of what a very happily married couple does except we stopped ML and intimate kissing a few weeks ago. Since Jan 1st, we have ML twice.

As noted above, we don't ML b/c my W "does not feel that way right now" (her words).

What are my next steps...I have been backing off a bit and am trying to not push pressure on her. I GAL a good amount (work, yoga, cross fit and martial arts). Should i detach more? Do I need to date other people for her to notice that she will lose me? Or should I just be patient? We only "got back together" in mid November, so it is has been a little less than three months.

Finally, I am 99.99% sure she is done with the A. She has not provided transparency to me, but she has shown a lot of improvement in that area. If she were in an A, she would be in NYC a lot more than she is. And she would act more like she did this past summer. My "spidey" senses have been pretty good and they tell me she is not in an A of any form.