Ganb8te 4 - Putting on my giraffe ears

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Wow! Indeed. Lot's of interesting perspectives. Gosh - thanks Jim, Barrybran, Lisa, V, Calibri and Toots for dropping in.

Barrybran - ah, you were referring to the abyss, got it. Yes, sometimes I feel like anything would be better than nothing hence my random ideas to get more info through other means. I flip flop between thinking we *are* unique and then remember the robx quote that Labug posted a while ago (everyone comes here thinking their sitch is unique...slow is fast...yada yada). Of course it could just be OW in which it is all text book.

It's a shame Labug hasn't been around in a while. I believe she also went months without contact and even asked her H where he stood at one stage (at that point he wanted D). I guess I was looking to her sitch as an example of how things may not be what they seem. Indeed I would probably have given up a long time ago were it not for the fact that H's body language suggests there is still an emotional response there. He is certainly not indifferent to me and does allude to the possibility of future interaction (not clear whether that is as H/W, friends or whatever). I don't think mine is the most despairing sitch on here in spite of the NC.

Calibri - mules have got nothing on me. That's how I can do it ;-) H is similar which may explain the current situation. That and I guess I always viewed this little debacle as an opportunity to teach myself to live more in the moment, be ok with uncertainty, be more patient and compassionate with others. All that good stuff. If I feel like I am learning then time doesn't seem to pass so slowly. Where else would I be rushing to?

Toots - no problem butting in. I hope this discussion helps you also.

I guess I have some thinking to do, specifically:
1. Am I getting close to being done with waiting around?
2. Am I ready to hear the cold truth?
3. Would OW change my feelings on what to do?
4. Is current strategy not working? For who is it not working? Not working to what end?

My responses to these questions will dictate my next actions.

Generous mulling starts...now...