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[tadpole1025]

Thanks all.

I think you're missing out on a great opportunity. She got you a small gift that showed she knows your interests and yet wasn't too "mushy." I think you should return the favor in kind.

But I know, you'll have multiple reasons why not .....

Thanks Drew. I don't have "multiple" reasons. I just have one. I don't want to scare her. Maybe I will though. I still have time.

Yeah ask her out for lunch again. But a little more like:

"Hey you want to grab lunch today?"

Less:

"I would formally like to invite you to lunch and if you say No I shall open up a vein with your letter opener. Why don't you women like nice guys?"

Yeah. Why don't women like nice guys?

As for asking her to lunch again, I'm going to wait. I've just sort of/kind of been turned down twice already:

1. When asked (hypothetically) if she dated co-workers, she said no.

2. When I asked if she would like to have lunch over a weekend a few weeks back, she said she would get back to me because she had some things going on. A couple of days later, she messaged me and said she was busy.

I don't know how you and your xw met or how that R flourished. That is always going to be a reference point for you. However, I do know it's difficult to comprehend that Rs evolve in different ways.

I think that is part of the problem. I've never had to do this. My XW and I met very young. She was 17 and I was 16. She was a friend of my step sister's. She was attracted to me and I was attracted to her and we flirted a little bit here and there. One day she was at the house visiting my sister. When she went to leave, I walked her home because it was getting dark. When we got to her door, she planted a kiss on me that I'll never forget. The rest is history...

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