Mighty (((((((hugs)))))))) I don't know if it helps, but I had the same experience. With more venom from xh after he left again, but still the same thing.
When we can finally let go and refocus we feel better. They do not appear to see how selfish and thoughtless and clueless they have been not ONCE but TWICE (or in the case of my xh three times, but the third was self inflicted by me - I shoulda known better! But he seemed so contrite, and let's face it we want to believe)
You will be fine. You are amazing. He is a total jerk. We only let them get away with it because we love who they were. He isn't that person any more, and may never be again. I think that is what hurts most. Losing the person. not just them going off, but the loss of the loving man that they used to be.
Thanks bright, train , karma. Helps knowing others have your back.
Bea, I'm sorry you had this three times. It's awful. I feel like I'm going through withdrawal all over again.
And you are most certainly correct- he is no longer the person I loved. And I don't want this guy. Not at all. It makes you crazy to see glimpses of the guy I loved, only to be taken over by.... Ick.... That.
I counted 6 weeks from yesterday in my calendar. I wrote "hello from 2/10. Are you strong?" Then 6 weeks from that, and 6 weeks from that.
So when I look at that on those dates, I can remember how I felt yesterday, and compare. I certainly hope I am in much better place each time.
Plus, a psychic (last July)told me I was going to meet someone in June. And that I'd meet 5 potential guys from June through November. Ha. I thought she was crazy. But... Stranger things have happened. Shall I list some??? Nope- not going there.
Forrest just texted me to tell me the plant I got him for his desk is dying.
Is that E.T. ish?? Hmmmm.... Science experiment....killing him & plant.... Needs to go back to outer space to feel better... Or needs human connection....For the plant to come back to life?!?
He's looking for any excuse to engage you in a conversation and to break your boundary. He can't stand that you are taking back your life. As for the plant...he may have forgotten to water it and if it's dead...what did he expect you to do about it? Go get another one? I certainly wouldn't.
No response needed to his last missive except...oh, well....
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
and it shows through your cool demeanor. Well done!