This is exactly what I’m thinking too. To me, accepting and letting go because they are the way they are now means exactly the end. I don’t understand “for now” part at all. If now they are like that and you lose all the respect and love, this is it.
No, that isn't how it works (for me, and I suspect for others like URworthy) When you do get to that point the landscape changes.
A prospect of the ocean is nothing like the ocean, if you see what I mean.
Many of us have been fearful of letting go finally because we actually fear this loss of love: we don't always realise it at the time.
When we lose this love we can revisit the real love we had for the person when they were whole, but also hold in our minds and hearts how damaged they are now. It is part of the process, I believe.
After we lose the initial love (reach acceptance that the person has really gone) many have a period of complete separation and lose contact and then the whole thing refocuses. MLCers tend, on the whole, to keep in touch, even if only infrequently.
Do I always feel love and compassion? Absolutely not - my xh can be a real ****** (insert word as appropriate!) But it takes time to get to this point.
