gan - I admire you because you have much more strength than I have. For periods of long NC and no answers. I couldn't do it. But I don't think what you're doing is currently working.
Do what feels right for you, and not because we, or some book or whatever else tells you so.
Hugs all around.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15