Devastated Husband; Need Advice...Part 2

[Calibri]

I preface this by saying I am in a very very dark place right now. What I say should be taken with a grain of salt. It's not meant to be mean towards you, nor your wife.

Having said that.......

Your wife needs to grow up.

You listening to her on the phone and looking at schools? Schools that she's invariably probably not going to go to? Doesn't help you. It enables her. Because she's still looking for your approval, guidance, wanting to get whatever it is she wants out of you. IMHO you're not helping, you're perpetuating the cycle.

Go dark because you need a break. You are driving yourself up the wall trying to nice guy your wife home. You are stressing yourself out and taking yourself to the breaking point where you will probably lose your [censored] if you keep doing this. Go dark because you need to detach (do as I say, not as I'm not doing. See I called my own self out on it.) and you cannot do it by taking all the texts and phone calls and facetimes which inevitably piss you off because it's not bringing your wife home.

If you don't like who you've become? Change it. What you are doing isn't working. Do something for you. Not something that's designed to win her back.

I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Today is my H's birthday. Cried all day like a baby cause I couldn't spend it with him. Hoo freaking ray.